Fear shuts the door to abundance. Fear has the power to shut you down and bring you to your knees. It puts you in a place of vulnerability which feels powerless. When you feel shut down by fear you are unable to tap into your own internal place of power. Let’s deconstruct the fear that shuts you down.
We have seven major energy centers in our body called chakras. Each chakra is in alignment with a physical location on and in our body. Here is a very brief description of the seven chakras and where they are located. Root, found at the base of your spine; Spleen or Sacral, found about 2-3 inches below the belly button; Solar Plexus, found in the upper abdomen between the bottom of your ribcage and your diaphragm; Heart; found at the level of your heart but in the center of your chest, Throat; found at your throat, Brow; found in the center of your forehead and Crown; found about two inches above the top of your head.
Each chakra is associated with emotions, feelings, thoughts and beliefs. The chakra I want to focus on in relation to fear which keeps us stuck is the solar plexus chakra. Now, fear can reside in any chakra depending on what the fear is about. If it is about life and death it may be in the root chakra. However, when I am speaking of the disempowered self it is found in the solar plexus. Our solar plexus chakra is our power center, the place of the I AM, the place where our inner warrior lives. When our solar plexus is open and flowing we will experience feeling courageous, whole and standing solid in our own personal power. When fear moves in and the solar plexus chakra gets blocked it can begin to shut down. And our “wholeness” can begin to feel like we are full of “holes.” When this happens we can not tap into our power and our strengths in the same way.
This happened to me recently. I wound up in a fear storm. There were many factors that went into creating this storm. This storm was made up of: fear about making big decisions, fear that I made a mistake and fear for someone I love.
Once I found myself in the middle of this storm I knew I would have to take action to get out of it. I decided to take a walk and do my best to clear my head, to get grounded, in touch with myself and to understand what was happening underneath this storm. What was I so worried about? What I am afraid of? These were the questions I began to ask myself. I began to see that it was not just the fear that got to me but the worry about the fear. Talk about the layering on of the emotions. Don’t just worry Janet, and don’t just feel fear, instead why don’t you worry about the fear.
OMG! Can you say overwhelm? That is just the place I was in, and that place has the capacity to shut me down. But being shut down is not a healthy place to be. The fear and worry shut me down to the place of full on anxiety. I felt that anxiety in my solar plexus chakra and all of a sudden I was powerless and I physically felt like I had a big hole right in the middle of my upper abdomen.
Once on my walk I began to do a lot of self talk. Now that I understood I was worried about fear I began to ask myself some questions.
What was there in reality to actually be afraid of? Fear of losing money? Well, why am I so attached to the money? Fear that a mistake was made? Well, I do not yet know there was a mistake made, why am I zapping my energy in that thought that has no basis in reality? Fear for the other person’s well being. The other person’s well being is up to them to take care of self. It is up to that person to put action steps in place to make changes, to manifest what they want. I can not do their work. All I can do is be supportive and offer guidance when asked.
After this deep talk I had with myself I realized the worry about fear of money and fear of mistakes is about being vulnerable. I have learned that I can let myself be vulnerable, that is ok, I have been learning that being vulnerable means being brave. I am very willing to be brave, to face owning decisions, to even face losing money and let my attachment to it go. I know I can call on my faith and trust in the the universe, that it has my back all of the time and that these lessons are here for me, to teach me.
But what about my fear as it concerns the other? How do I find a place for that worry. I find this one more challenging because I can not hold onto any delusion that I have control. I have to be able to trust at even a deeper level. I have to trust the other will do their own work and the outcome will be for their highest and greatest good and trust that they will handle the outcome in a constructive way.
Maybe that is what I am most afraid of, how will the other handle the outcome? Will they be able to handle it? Will they grow from this or shut down? That is my fear. My fear is not of the outcome, though of course I want it to be positive, but my fear is how will the other cope if the outcome does not give them the desired result. I am attached to the other person’s reaction to the outcome because I love and care for this person and do not want any harm to come to them. I also have a investment in their happiness and success not for my sense of self but for theirs. This is the ultimate test of faith and patience and trust.
Do I have it in me to come back to a place of wholeness? I know I do. What do we do to bring the self back to wholeness once we know what the holes are about? Here are are three steps you can do to bring yourself back from the emotional edge.
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Meditate. Set the time aside for yourself to focus on your breath, be present and allow the feelings to rise up, flow through you and let them go. During my meditation, when I was stuck in this emotional storm, I focused on my solar plexus to release the stuck energy.
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Talk to someone who is safe, who gets it, who can hold and honor the emotional space you are in. Someone who will hold you without judgement. Because when we are in that place of vulnerability being judged will not feel safe and will further disempower you.
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Exercise. This will get in touch with your body again. And if you can get outside to exercise in nature, even better, as this will help ground you and connect even more deeply to being present.
Doing these 3 things helps you get out of the thinking mind and back into your heart space and back to feeling whole.
I do not want fear to shut the door to abundance, that door is a door I want to keep wide open. The way to do that is to remove the fear. The only way to remove the fear is to feel it, listen to it, honor it, learn from it and help it release.
I am honored to be a catalyst in your healing journey. Private sessions are available. If you have any questions, want clarification or support on your path of healing please reach out and let me know. There are many ways to get in touch with me I look forward to connecting with you.
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